Online Personal Ads - How to Talk to Women

by: JayReiss,M.S.W.
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I'm an Online Dating Coach, and many of the ads I see on the Internet are shocking! There are some (often written by guys looking for women) who write their ads like they're trying to sell used furniture in the classified section of their daily papers! The women's ads are often just as bad - often containing very little substantial information - or the ads just come across as demanding.

Here's one example. This ad was submitted by a woman in her early 40's -

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"I love to talk about books that have struck you bizarre or interesting. I do want someone to hang out with, and must enjoy talking about politics, books, places and wine. Must love chocolate!"

We can immediately see that this woman likes to communicate (and that's a good thing, yes?) and she also enjoys "talking about everything" - including "books that have struck you bizarre." (Are we talking about Stephen King novels here?) In addition to that, it would be great if you (as a guy) can talk about "politics, places, and wine" - but the main thing is that you love chocolate?

It's hard to imagine what sort of guy she'll attract with that ad!

Or check out this Internet Dating ad from a 29-year-old man who calls himself the Tattoo Teddy Bear:

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"i just want a good girl that knows how to treat a man with respect."

This online dating ad gets right to the point, doesn't it.

So is it any wonder that so many single men and women are just like "two ships passing in the night?"

One of the secrets to writing effective online personal ads is to write your ads just like you're having a real, live conversation with your reader.

Or to express things in terms of what NOT to do:

1. Don't write your Internet Dating Ads so they sound like magazine advertisements!

2. Never condescend to your audience!

3. Never write a short (one or two sentence) ad. You just can't say enough in a short ad to really "sell" yourself properly!

Follow these guidelines instead:

1. Talk about yourself in terms of who you are as a person, what you enjoy doing on a date, and list some of your hobbies and interests.

2. Using colorful, imaginative language, and paint a picture of how she or he will feel when you're together on a date. Use examples, anticipate questions, and be upbeat and optimistic. Give your reader a sense of what being with you is like - and describe that in some detail when writing your dating ad.

3. Talk about some of your best qualities. (Are you warm and friendly? A good listener? Are you compassionate and understanding?)

4. What are some of the reasons (i.e., the benefits) for answering your ad today? What will she or he gain by doing so?

5. Finally - please remember to use a spell-checker on your ad before you click the "submit" button and have it published!

By creating an honest and empathic dialog with your reader when writing your online personal ads, you'll be way ahead of most of your competitors for the attention of the women - or men - you'd like to hear from the most!

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